Printable toolkit
The Sibling Toolkit
Help your kids understand each other, work through their fights, and build a bond that lasts, instead of refereeing every argument yourself. It’s a printable set of activities, games, scripts, and posters you and your children work through together, one page at a time, so getting along becomes something they practice with you, not something you have to enforce.
When you are stuck in the middle
This is for the sibling fights that keep landing in your lap.
The fighting is constant, and you are starting to wonder if they will ever be close.
You are tired of being the referee.
They mostly get along, and you want to grow what is already there.
What you get
What comes in the printable toolkit
US$23.39
- Games and conversation starters that help your kids cooperate instead of compete
- Tools and scripts for the heat of the moment: how to ask for a turn, conflict roadmap, and when something doesn't feel fair
- Wall posters for sharing, resetting after a hard day, and ways to show siblings love
- A family vision board and get-to-know-your sibling activity
- Parent tips from Jess and the expert team
Buy once and print it as often as you like for your own household. Pull out the page that fits this week, sit down together, and follow your child’s lead from there.
What your child will learn
Listening, sharing, and taking turns
How to really listen to a sibling instead of talking over them
How to take turns and make sharing feel fair
How to ask for space when they need it, and respect it when a sibling does
Working through the fights
How to work out an argument, sometimes without you stepping in
What to say to make up after a fight, and how to mean it
How to understand big feelings, cope when a sibling is frustrating, and reset after a hard day
Building the bond
How to show kindness and love in ways a sibling actually feels
How to get to know a sibling and notice what they love about them
What fairness looks like in your home, and the values your family stands on
Created by Jess and a team who look at why siblings clash.
The Sibling Toolkit was created by Jess VanderWier, a Registered Psychotherapist and mom of three who knows the referee feeling firsthand, with a team of experts in child development and children’s mental health. Jess’s work focuses on the root causes of sibling conflict, then turns what she finds into something practical you can do at the kitchen table. The goal is to help your kids understand each other and learn to repair on their own, in small steps you can come back to whenever the next argument shows up. This is a practical tool for building sibling connection. It is not therapy or a promise that the fighting stops overnight.
What's inside
A look inside the toolkit
A small preview of the real pages, so you can see how clear and kid-friendly they are before you buy.
Poster
Our Turn-Taking Plan
Worksheet
We're Similar AND Different
Activity
Nurture Jar: Sibling Edition
Journal
Sometimes I Get Jealous
If you are tired of refereeing, the pages are ready.
Picture the version where your kids can catch a fight before it boils over, take a turn without a meltdown, and find their way back to each other after a hard moment, while you do less and less of the refereeing. That is what these pages build, one at a time. You can start with a single page tonight, hang one poster, and let the rest come as your kids are ready.
US$23.39
Frequently asked questions
We made it for children ages 3 to 9. You know your kids best, so you do not have to cover everything at once. Start with the pages that match what is happening right now, like constant fighting over toys or a lot of “that’s not fair,” and come back to the rest as your kids are ready. With a big age gap, do the pages with each child at their own level.
It is meant to be done with your child, not handed over. Print a page, sit down together, play the game or talk through the poster, and let it lead into the real moments later. A few minutes at a time works better than one long sitting.
This was made for kids who argue. It gives your child scripts and tools to use in the hard moments with a sibling, plus ways to start working out conflict on their own. The repetition is what makes it stick, so the same fight stops being the only outcome.
Yes. The toolkit gives your child a simple plan for sharing and scripts they can use with a sibling when they are fighting over a toy or a turn.
Most likely, because this does not rest on one chart or one forced apology. Your kids get small pieces they can return to: a poster on the wall, a quick activity, a script ready for the next real fight. They learn what is going on for their sibling, not just how to earn a sticker, and that is what lasts.
That is okay. The toolkit is more than coloring pages. It uses games, scripts, activities, and posters, so you can pick what fits each child and skip what does not.
Yes. We made it with neurodivergent and highly sensitive children in mind. Coloring, games, and posters let a child take in the same idea more than one way, at their own pace, and come back to it whenever they need.
Most free printables are a single page on one idea. This is 50 pages covering the whole picture, from listening and taking turns to repairing after a fight and building a real bond, in one place, with parent guidance and a do-it-together structure, created by a psychotherapist and a team of child-development and mental-health experts. You are paying for the sequence and the guidance, not just the pages.
It is designed to be printed. Print the pages you want as many times as your household needs. You can read some pages on a screen, but the posters, worksheets, and activities work best on paper, where your kids can point to them, color them, and come back to them.
The toolkit is licensed to the registered user and their household for personal, non-commercial use. Files must not be shared, distributed, or copied for other households or classrooms.
Your purchase is handled through the Nurtured First checkout, and your printable download is available right after, with your order and receipt saved in your account.
It is one combined PDF you download and print at home. The pages are sized for US Letter and scale nicely to A4 if you need it. It is designed in color, but everything holds up in black and white too. You can use it on a screen, though it is built to be printed and worked through together on paper.
No. It is educational support for building sibling connection between you and your kids. It does not replace therapy, medical care, or guidance from a qualified professional.
Because this is a digital printable toolkit, sales are final and cannot be returned or refunded. If you bought the wrong toolkit, contact us within 24 hours of purchase and before downloading. If you have trouble accessing the file, contact support@nurturedfirst.com and we will help. Read the full refund policy on the Refund Policy page.
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