Online Parenting Course
The Puberty Course
Puberty is tough, for your child and for you. Their body, friendships, and moods are all starting to change, and you’re not always sure what to say. This course helps you guide them through it, one small conversation at a time.
If any of these sound familiar, you're in the right place.
The question you weren't ready for.
Your eight-year-old asks you, "What's sex?" Your stomach drops. You know they're likely old enough to understand, but you aren't sure how to explain it in an age-appropriate way.
You notice your child has started to smell.
You didn't realize puberty started this early. They definitely need to shower more, or maybe they just need deodorant? But how do you bring it up without making them feel bad about themselves? You start to spiral, realizing this new season of life is starting before you're ready.
No one ever really talked to you about this.
Maybe it was a book left on your bed, or one red-faced talk in the car that no one mentioned again. You figured out the rest at sleepovers and swore your kids would get something better. You want to do more than buy your daughter a book on puberty that she reads in silence. You want to be the parent who guides her through it, but you're not sure where to start.
Get Started with The Puberty Course
Original price was: US$84.99.US$67.99Current price is: US$67.99.
- 71 video lessons, most under 8 minutes
- A 98-page printable workbook to follow along
- The Conversation Starter Bank, with opening lines sorted by topic
- Two bonus videos made for your daughter: building a period kit and using a pad
- An audio-only version for listening on the go
- A Quick Start Path of 11 lessons for when you need help today
- Watch on any device, at your own pace
Start your first lesson tonight, and have your first small conversation this week.
What You'll Learn
Becoming the Parent They Ask
The 3 things to say and do so your child feels safe, heard, and never ashamed to come to you.
A four-step way to answer any question, even the hard ones: pause, clarify, answer simply, and invite more.
What to do in the moment a question catches you off guard, so you stay calm and keep the conversation going.
How to try again when your child shuts down, so one awkward moment doesn't close the door for good.
Talking About Changing Bodies
Why the stage of puberty matters more than your child's age, and the early signs parents often miss.
The exact words to say the moment your daughter tells you her period has started.
How to explain erections and wet dreams to your son.
What to say if you walk in on your child exploring their body, so they learn privacy without learning shame.
Friends, Phones, and the Wider World
How to protect your child's body image, starting with how your family talks about bodies.
How to coach your child through cliques, teasing, and first crushes, without rushing in to fix it for them.
What to say before your child sees something explicit online, and the calm first words if they already have.
How to build a family digital safety agreement, and the "no trouble for telling" rule that keeps them coming to you.
See What's Included
You'll start with the conversations themselves: how to stay calm, what to say, and how to keep your child talking. Then you'll get practical words for the topics on your mind: body changes and hygiene, periods and erections, sex and how babies are made, friendships, and phones. By the end, you'll know what to say when the questions come, and you'll be the trusted adult your child knows they can come to.
Meet Jess, see how the course fits together, and learn the six key terms you’ll hear throughout. Before you go any further, you’ll say a few body words out loud, so the first time you say them isn’t to your child.
Welcome: Meet Jess and What to Expect
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How to Use This Course
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The Puberty Course Workbook
Key Terms You'll Hear Throughout This Course
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Module 0. Welcome and Getting Started
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This is the inner work that makes everything else easier. You’ll look at why these conversations feel so hard, how your own upbringing shows up, and why lots of small talks beat one big one. It matters because kids pick up on our discomfort fast, and it can quietly teach them not to ask.
Why These Conversations Feel So Hard
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Your Story: Breaking Generational Patterns
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The Myth of "The Talk"
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What Makes a Parent Truly "Askable"
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Cross-Gender Conversations
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Module 1. Becoming the Askable Parent
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These are the skills you’ll use in every conversation that follows. You’ll learn how to listen so your child keeps talking, stay steady when a question surprises you, and answer without lecturing. You’ll also learn what to say when you don’t know the answer, and how to keep the door open when your child shuts down.
The Active Listening Formula
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Managing Your Own Anxiety in the Moment
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How to Answer Any Question with Confidence
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The Power of "I Don't Know"
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Finding Natural Conversation Moments
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When Your Child Shuts Down
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Module 2. Your Communication Strategies
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The body basics, whatever your child’s gender: the right words for bodies, the stages of puberty, and why the tween brain reacts so big. You’ll also get shame-free responses for body exploration, hygiene, and how babies are made, so you can answer calmly instead of scrambling.
Anatomy: Getting Familiar with the Words and the Bodies
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The Stages of Puberty: Your Roadmap
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The Tween Brain Under Construction
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From Frustration to Empathy
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Body Exploration: A Shame-Free Response
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Hygiene Conversations That Work
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How Babies Are Made: Conversations That Build Over Time
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Module 3. Understanding Changing Bodies
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How to prepare your daughter for the changes ahead, from breast buds and her first bra to a first period that doesn’t catch her by surprise. Jess shows you period products up close, walks through using a pad and a tampon step by step, and helps you pack a period kit.
Female Body Changes: An Overview
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Talking to Your Daughter About the Changes She Will Experience
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Breast Development
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Choosing a First Bra
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Understanding Periods
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Talking to Your Daughter About Her First Period
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Period Products
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How to Use a Pad
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Bonus: How to Use a Pad for Kids
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Building a Period Kit
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Bonus: Building a Period Kit for Kids
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Managing Cramps
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How to Use a Tampon
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Teaching Girls About Boys' Changing Bodies
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Module 4. Understanding Tween Girls
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What to expect as your son’s body changes, and why it pays to start talking before the visible changes arrive. You’ll get calm, side-by-side scripts for erections and wet dreams, a plan for awkward moments at school, and a simple way to teach boys about periods too.
Male Body Changes: An Overview
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Talking to Your Son About the Changes He Will Experience
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Understanding Erections
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Talking to Your Son About Erections
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Coaching Through Public Erections
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Wet Dreams and Nocturnal Emissions
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Teaching Boys About Periods
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Module 5. Understanding Tween Boys
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How the way you talk about bodies, including your own, shapes the way your child sees theirs. You’ll learn small daily habits that protect body image, what to say when peers comment on bodies, and how to talk about social media and edited images.
Building Healthy Body Image: The Mindset Shift
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Building Healthy Body Image: Daily Practices
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When Peers Talk About Bodies
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Social Media and Body Image
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Module 6. Body Image
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Tween friendships can change overnight. You’ll learn to coach instead of fix, whether it’s a clique, teasing, a friend who won’t take no for an answer, or a first crush.
Understanding Tween Social Dynamics
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Coaching Through Cliques and Exclusion
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Building Resilience Against Teasing
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Teaching Consent Through Daily Life
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Red and Green Flags in Friendships
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When Your Child Has a Crush
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Module 7. Friendships and the Social World
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How to move from monitoring your child’s online life to mentoring it. You’ll learn how to have the proactive pornography conversation, build a family digital safety plan together, and respond calmly when something goes wrong online. The goal is a child who comes to you instead of hiding it.
From Monitor to Mentor
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The Proactive Pornography Conversation
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Creating Your Family Digital Safety Plan
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When Something Goes Wrong Online
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Module 8. Digital Safety
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Fifteen real questions tweens ask, from “Why did everyone else get their period?” to “What do I do when I get an erection at school?” Jess answers each one the way she’d answer a child, so you can borrow her words. Most take about 2 minutes, short enough to watch right before you answer.
Why am I moody on my period?
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Should I start shaving?
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Why did everyone else get their period?
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I got my period. Now what?
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Why is there white stuff in my underwear?
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My bed was wet and it wasn't pee. What was it?
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What do I do when I get an erection at school?
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What does it mean to have a period?
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Is it weird if it feels good to touch myself?
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Everyone is laughing at my squeaky voice. What do I do?
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Why am I tired all the time?
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I think I'm starting to smell. What do I do?
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Someone asked me to send a picture of my private parts. What do I do?
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Someone showed me a naked picture on the bus. What do I do?
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Why is there hair growing in weird places?
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Module 9. Questions Tweens Are Asking (And How To Respond)
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How to tell a normal puberty wobble from something that needs more support, and who to call when it does. Then Jess sends you off with everything you’ve built and one small next step to take.
When to Seek Additional Support
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You've Got This: Final Encouragement
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Conclusion: Your Next Steps
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See How Jess Teaches
Jess doesn’t hand you a script and wish you luck. She names the awkward part out loud, then says the words the way you’d say them at the kitchen table: calm, brief, and without a lecture. Watch her welcome video to see how she teaches.
Jess VanderWier
Registered Psychotherapist and Mom of Three
Jess VanderWier is a Registered Psychotherapist, a parenting educator, and the founder of Nurtured First. She has taught body safety and sex education to children and youth for more than 10 years. In her therapy work, she has sat with many families, and many preteens, in the middle of these exact changes.
As a mom, she’s fielded her own surprise questions from the back seat. In this course, she shows you how to say the words, even the awkward ones: calmly, plainly, and without shame.
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What Makes This Course Different
See It Done, Not Described
Most advice tells you what to say. Here you watch Jess say it out loud, calm and brief, with the pause that gives you a second to think. She walks through the hands-on parts on camera too, so you can show your child with confidence.
A Framework You'll Remember
Everything in the course points to one goal: becoming the askable parent, the one your child feels safe bringing any question to. When your mind goes blank, you won’t need a perfect answer, just three moves: listen, answer simply, and ground yourself. They fit on a wallet card in the workbook.
Answers for the Moment Itself
When something just happened, you need answers fast. Module 9 answers 15 real questions tweens ask, and a “something just happened” page in the workbook points you to the right lesson. It’s what you’ll reach for the night her period starts, or the day someone shows your child a picture on the bus.
Built for Busy Parents
Most lessons take less time than the school pickup line and end with one tiny task to try at home. Every video stands on its own, so you can skip straight to the one you need.
A Therapist Who's Been There
Jess loves talking about these topics, but her own kids still don’t want a 20-minute lecture every time they ask about periods. House rules from the course, like “no phones at the dinner table,” come straight from her own home. You’re learning from someone who uses this with her own family, not just in her office.
It Grows With Your Child
The questions your 8-year-old asks won’t be the ones your 13-year-old asks. The course teaches a two-pass approach: a light first mention early, then a deeper talk once the change arrives. Come back at each new stage, and the next conversation will be waiting for you.
You can be the person your child asks first.
This isn’t about getting one big talk right, but about lots of small, calm conversations that make your home the place your child brings their questions. If a question has already caught you off guard, start with the 11-lesson Quick Start Path, and keep the Conversation Starter Bank close for the next one.
Original price was: US$84.99.US$67.99Current price is: US$67.99.
This course comes with our 30-day guarantee. Read the refund policy.
Frequently Asked Questions
The course is made for parents of kids ages 8 to 13. At 8, you’re right on time, since the first changes often start earlier than parents expect. At 12 or 13, it’s not too late. You can start right where your child is, and I’ll show you how.
That’s okay. You haven’t missed your window. Start with the lessons you need right now, like the first-period lessons or the Module 9 answers, and come back to the foundations when you can. The Quick Start Path is a good first stop.
This course is for you. The lessons are made for parents, so you can get comfortable with the words before you use them with your child. Two short bonus videos in Module 4 are made for your daughter to watch. A few workbook pages, like the family digital safety agreement, are meant to be filled out together.
Yes. Module 4 covers girls’ changing bodies and Module 5 covers boys’, and I’d encourage you to watch both, whoever you’re raising. Daughters should know what boys go through, and sons should know about periods, so they can be kind to each other and stand up to teasing.
Absolutely. There’s a whole lesson on cross-gender conversations, with a ready-made script for dads talking to daughters. The right parent for these conversations is the one who’s willing to show up.
The Puberty Toolkit is a 60+ page printable set of worksheets, journal pages, and activities that you and your child work through together. This course is for you, the parent. It shows you how to start these conversations, what to say, and how to stay calm when a question comes out of nowhere. You don’t need one to use the other.
Books are great for the facts, and plenty of parents start there. What a book can’t show you is the tone, the pause, and what to do when your child rolls their eyes and walks away. If a book has already given you the confidence to start, you might not need this. If you’ve read the facts and still freeze when the question comes, this course is for that moment.
Most of the core lessons run 3 to 8 minutes. A few deeper ones, like talking to your daughter about her first period, run closer to 12. The Module 9 answers take about 2 minutes each. The whole course runs about 5.5 hours, broken into small pieces so you can watch one lesson and use it the same day.
Yes. There are no live sessions and no deadlines. Go in order, start with the Quick Start Path, or jump to whichever lesson you need first.
Yes. You can come back to the lessons, the workbook, and the audio version whenever a new question comes up. Rewatching a lesson right before a conversation you’ve been putting off is a great way to use it.
No. This course is education, not medical advice or therapy. It helps you understand what’s typical and spot the signs that something is bigger than a normal puberty wobble. If you’re ever worried about your child’s development, health, or safety, please reach out to your pediatrician or a qualified professional.
You can request a refund within 30 days of purchase, as long as you’ve completed 50 percent or less of the course. Just email support@nurturedfirst.com, and you’ll find the full details on our Refund Policy page.
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