Printable toolkit
The Anger Toolkit
When the big feelings erupt, this is what you reach for, together. It is a printable set of activities, worksheets, posters, games, and a fill-in story that you and your child work through side by side. Instead of punishing the anger or waiting for it to blow over, you help your child understand it, calm their body, and tell you what is going on underneath.
When the big feelings take over
This is for the meltdowns you can see coming and still cannot stop.
Your child feels everything big, and it often comes out as an explosion.
Your child seems grumpy or mad and cannot tell you why.
When the meltdown hits, your child loses control of their body.
What you get
What comes in the printable toolkit
US$23.39
- 40 printable pages of worksheets, activities, posters, and games
- A fill-in anger story your child reads and draws their way through
- A calming-strategies page your child can turn to during a meltdown
- Posters for the fridge, so the calming tools are right there when you need them
- Plain, kid-friendly explanations of what anger is and why it shows up
- Simple parent tips, so you are not guessing what to say
Buy once and print it as often as you like for your own household, for as long as your child needs it.
What your child will learn
Understanding the feeling
What anger is, and that it is a normal feeling everyone has
How anger feels inside their body, and how to notice it early
How to make sense of a big feeling instead of being scared of it
How to get to the root of what is really going on underneath
Calming the body and the moment
Easy ways to calm their body down when anger takes over
What to do with hitting energy so it does not land on someone
How to find a go-to way to settle themselves, and make it a habit
Short scripts they can say to themselves when the feeling is big
Telling you and staying connected
Ways to tell you how they feel instead of acting it out
How to ask for help when they are struggling
That they are not alone with their anger, and you are on their team
Simple tools they can carry with them to school
Created by Jess and a team who understand big feelings.
The Anger Toolkit was created by Jess VanderWier, a Registered Psychotherapist and mom of three, with a team of experts in child development and mental health. The whole approach starts from one idea: anger is not the enemy. It is a normal feeling, and a signal worth understanding. These pages help you teach your child that their anger makes sense, that it does not have to feel scary, and that they have you and a set of real tools to handle it together. This is a practical tool for those conversations, not medical advice or a replacement for professional support.
What's inside
A look inside the toolkit
A few real pages, so you can see how warm and kid-friendly they are before you buy.
Poster
My Calming Tools
Worksheet
What Can I do When I’m Mad
Activity
Gratitude Notes
Game
Angry Charades
I worked on some of the anger story with my 4-year-old. She used wall pushes and it really helped! She loved doing the drawings, too! Thanks
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The next big feeling is coming. This is what you will reach for.
Picture the version where anger is not a crisis in your house, just a hard feeling your child is learning to handle, with you beside them and a page in their hands. That is what these 40 pages are for. You can print your first page tonight, begin wherever your child is right now, and let the rest wait until they are ready.
US$23.39
Frequently asked questions
We made it with children ages 3 to 9 in mind. You know your child best, so you do not have to use every page at once. Start with what fits the anger you are seeing now, and come back to the rest as they grow.
It is made to be done with your child, not handed over. Sit down and go through a page together, especially on calm days, so the tools feel familiar before the next big feeling hits. Then your child has something to reach for in the moment, and they know you are in it with them.
We will be honest: one toolkit will not make anger disappear, and that is not the goal. Anger is a normal feeling your child will have for life. What these pages do is help your child understand it, give them real ways to calm their body, and show them they are not alone with it. That is the first and most important step, and it is one you take together.
A single chart or one calm-down poster asks a child to remember a rule in the hardest moment of their day. This toolkit teaches the skill on calm days first, in more than one way, through a story, posters, worksheets, and games, so it has a chance to actually take hold. You are not handing your child a rule. You are practicing something with them, again and again.
There is much more here than coloring. The toolkit has worksheets, activities, games, a fill-in story, and posters, so there are plenty of ways in for a child who would rather build, write, move, or talk it out.
Yes. We made it with neurodivergent and highly sensitive children in mind. There is no timer and no right way to do it, so you can go one small piece at a time, repeat the pages that help, and leave the ones that do not fit today.
Most free printables are a single page or a one-off worksheet. This is 40 pages that move through the whole arc of anger, from what the feeling is, to calming the body, to telling you what is going on, in one place, with parent guidance and a do-it-together structure. You are paying for the sequence and the guidance, not just the pages.
The Anger Course is for you, the parent: short video lessons that help you understand your child’s anger, spot the triggers, and respond in the moment. The Anger Toolkit is a printable package of worksheets, activities, and coloring pages you work through together with your child. Many families use them side by side, the course to guide you and the toolkit to give your child something to do with their hands.
The toolkit is licensed to the registered user and their household for personal, non-commercial use. Files must not be shared, distributed, or copied for other households or classrooms.
It is designed as a printable. Print the pages you want, and print them as often as you like for your own household, for as long as your children need them.
It is one combined PDF you download and print at home. The pages are sized for US Letter and scale nicely to A4 if you need it. It is designed in color, but everything holds up in black and white too. You can also use it on a screen, though the worksheets, posters, and activities work best on paper.
Your purchase goes through the Nurtured First checkout, and your printable download is available right after, with your order and receipt saved in your account.
No. It is educational support for anger conversations between you and your child. It does not replace therapy, medical care, or advice from a qualified professional.
Because this is a digital printable toolkit, sales are final and cannot be returned or refunded. If you bought the wrong toolkit, contact us within 24 hours of purchase and before downloading. If you have trouble accessing the file, contact support@nurturedfirst.com and we will help. Read the full refund policy on the Refund Policy page.
Related support
If you need a different kind of help with big feelings
A few more Nurtured First resources for the seasons around anger and big emotions.
The Anger Course
For the screaming, the hitting, and the slammed doors. Video lessons that help you see what is fueling your child’s anger, catch it earlier, and stay steady when their big feelings hook yours, for ages 3 to 9.
The Worry Toolkit
For the worries that show up at bedtime, before school, and out of nowhere. Printable stories, activities, and journal pages you and your child work through together, so a big worry becomes something they know how to handle, for ages 3 to 9.
The Playful Parent Toolkit
For the days when everything has turned into a power struggle. Printable games, activities, and simple strategies you and your child do together, so cooperation comes from the fun you have instead of one more consequence, for ages 3 to 9.
